Shifting mindset ...

In an articles '5 Strategies for Changing Mindsets' by Dave Paunesku, he highlighted the misconception that

"...those trying to change someone else’s mindset sometimes err by approaching mindsets as if they were 'facts' to be memorized rather than habits of mind to be internalized. ...ignore the personal and emotionally charged nature of many mindsets,... which means changing them calls for special sensitivity to the perspective of the the person whose mindset you’re trying to change."

This I find it true for myself when biasness and enthusiasm to hasten the process causes misalignment of the primary goal.

The following persuasion principles from Dave can serve as my mental model:

1. Social modelling — provide a positive example of the transformation you seek. Showing them the transformational process.

2. Social norms — use the bandwagon. Showing them that many others are doing it.

3. Signal credibility — use a trusted messenger

4. Respect autonomy — being patronized elicits resistance, not persuasion. People don’t like it when somebody else tells them how to think, especially if it’s “for their own good.”

5. Avoid blame and focus on growth. Try to help them to "save face".

Additionally, I think 'seizing the appropriate timing & giving time' to the person is also crucial for the process.